Grief and Loss

Grief and Loss

Grief is the body’s natural response to the death of a family member or a close friend, serious illness, and other significant losses. Overcoming loss comes in stages that look different from person to person. Most people get used to and grow from their situation in time and grief counselling is proven to help with that process.  

Stages of Grief and Loss

Each person has their own way of dealing with grief however most people follow these stages of grief, linearly or not. 

  • Denial is the most common form of grief. When it is difficult for the person to accept the truth. The person might be in a state of shock before they can accept the fact.
  • Anger. Once a person starts to believe and process what has happened they feel anger and rage and may use phrases like “This isn’t fair”, “How can this be happening to me? I've done nothing wrong”. 
  • Bargaining and struggling to find meaning is common after a significant loss. In this stage, the person usually tries to build some false hope to make themselves believe that one can avoid the grief by striking some sort of deal with either yourself, god, or someone else. 
  • Depression is the most widely accepted form of grief. At this stage, it is highly likely for the person to retreat from people as the reality of the situation dawns on them. The person would feel overwhelmed by everything and experience feelings of hopelessness. 
  • Acceptance is the stage where the person’s emotions begin to stabilize as they come to terms and decide how to move on from their situation. It’s a time of adjustment and reconnecting with the world. 


Grief counselling helps an individual through all the stages onto the last one which is acceptance and growth. Most of the time people need to talk to someone when they are going through a big change in their life, but people are not usually experienced in regard to consoling a person going through something so difficult, this is why psychology services is a good idea to talk and help channel one’s thoughts. 


Symptoms of Grief and Loss 

Grief looks different in every person, but the most common symptoms include 

  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Blame 
  • Survivors' guilt 
  • Sadness 
  • Appetite changes 
  • Difficulty sleeping 
  • Thoughts of self-harm
  • Frustration


Significant loss can lead to anxiety and depression having numerous effects on one’s mental and physical health and the person would be recommended to see a doctor instantly.  


Causes of Grief and Loss

There are multiple reasons for an individuals' grief. Here are some reasons listed below: 

  • Death of a loved one 
  • Divorce 
  • Changes in friendship 
  • Major illness 


Grief is a normal phenomenon we all cope with within our lives. This can be a result of losing a loved one, a relationship, a pregnancy, a pet, a job or a living. Other experiences of loss include children leaving home as they mature, infertility and separation from family members and friends. The more significant the loss is, the more intense the grief one will experience. 



Grief is a natural reaction after a substantial loss however differentiating between normal and complicated grief is tricky and essential to figure out. Clinical psychologists can help a person distinguish between the two and the process to recovery and healing. 


Treatment for Grief and loss 

A person needs to allow themselves to grieve to enter the post-traumatic growth phase. In order to help get over significant trauma, it is essential for a person to talk to a close friend or a psychologist to seek grief and loss counselling to direct their thoughts in the correct direction to get more clarity. Unresolved grief that arises from such a situation can be helped by individual counselling with a psychologist, support groups and bereavement groups. This may be necessary if the person in grief is having trouble functioning in their everyday life. 



At Inner Psych, our team of psychologists and other mental health professionals are here to help with your journey to healing with online counselling across Australia. Your mental health is of predominance and grief counselling is treated extremely seriously. Do not hesitate to contact our team and let us handle everything thereafter. 

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