A man who loves others based solely on how they make him feel, or what they do for him, is really not loving others at all — but loving only himself
No beauty shines brighter than that of a good heart
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved
Anyone can have a good day, but you have to be able to perform on a bad day
Empathy means understanding others on their own terms and bringing them into the orbit of one’s own experience
My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. That in itself is an accomplishment. And they bring to mind something else, too. They remind me that the damage life has inflicted on me has, in many places, left me stronger and more resilient. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present
Things never go the way you expect them to. That’s both the joy and frustration in life. I’m finding as I get older that I don’t mind, though. It’s the surprises that tickle me the most, the things you don’t see coming
Who’s not sat tense before his own heart’s curtain.
A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl
At the end of the day, tell yourself gently: ‘I love you, you did the best you could today, and even if you didn’t accomplish all you had planned, I love you anyway.
Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good
Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form
Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.
The Empath is often said to have such a great degree of empathy that they can literally feel what others feel, and thus intuitively know many of the yearnings, sensitivities, tastes and even thought patterns of the people they’re around
We must understand that sadness is an ocean, and sometimes we drown, while other days we are forced to swim
Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which ones to surf
We don’t “have” a great day, we “make it” a great day!
Nothing is permanent in this wicked world — not even our troubles.
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection
The world offers you comfort. But you were not made for comfort. You were made for greatness
It’s OKAY to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.
There is no normal life that is free of pain. It’s the very wrestling with our problems that can be the impetus for our growth
Just as despair can come to one only from other human beings, hope, too, can be given to one only by other human beings
If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person."
When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.
As an empath, it’s vital that you learn how to hold space for your emotions, even the most painful ones. By anchoring yourself in your breath, you can learn how to witness the emotional energy of others within you, without attaching yourself to these sensations
Affliction comes to us, not to make us sad but sober; not to make us sorry but wise
You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, letgo of them. I tie no weights to my ankles
I will not allow anyone to walk in my mind with dirty feet
Letting ourselves be forgiven is one of the most difficult healings we will undertake. And one of the most fritful
Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate
people inspire you, or they drain you. Pick them wisely
The sad thing that many of us empaths don’t realize is that often our desire to heal others is a disguised cry for help for our own healing. Because many of us weren’t taught how to value or nurture ourselves at a young age, we tend to unconsciously seek out our own healing in the healing of others
Indeed, this life is a test. It is a test of many things – of our convictions and priorities, our faith and our faithfulness, our patience and our resilience, and in the end, our ultimate desires
Every day is a good day. There is something to learn, care and celebrate
Today is your day, your mountain is waiting. So get on your way
Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which ones to surf
My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. That in itself is an accomplishment. And they bring to mind something else, too. They remind me that the damage life has inflicted on me has, in many places, left me stronger and more resilient. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present
You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds… claim and consciously use your power
Every day is a good day to be alive, whether the sun’s shining or not
Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you’ll start to see a big difference in your life
The nature of humanity, its essence, is to feel another’s pain as one’s own, and to act to take that pain away. There is a nobility in compassion, a beauty in empathy, a grace in forgiveness
You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness
Any day above ground is a good day. Before you complain about anything, be thankful for your life and the things that are still going well
Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Have great hopes and dare to go all out for them. Have great dreams and dare to live them. Have tremendous expectations and believe in them.
Create boundaries. Honor your limits. Say no. Take a break. Let go. Stay grounded. Nurture your body. Love your vulnerability. And if all else fails, breathe deeply
Just because you fail once doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything
No longer forward nor behind I look in hope and fear; But grateful take the good I find, The best of now and here.
The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind
Every time your heart is broken, a doorway cracks open to a world full of new beginnings, new opportunities
Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.
Do not let your difficulties fill you with anxiety; after all it is only in the darkest nights that stars shine more brightly
Don’t be discouraged. It’s often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock
Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are
If you so choose, every mistake can lead to greater understanding and effectiveness. If you so choose, every frustration can help you to be more patient and more persistent
Frustration is the fuel that can lead to the development of an innovative and useful idea
Looking back at the times where I allowed my work to create stress and frustration in my life, I now realize what I thought was important really was not. I am not saying you should not take your work seriously, what I am saying is that we need to realize that life is all about balance
Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears
Every day you must unlearn the ways that hold you back. You must rid yourself of negativity, so you can learn to fly
Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.
Intuition – once you have had a narcissist in your life, you must develop your intuition and learn to listen to it and act accordingly
Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment.
You create more space in your life when you turn your excess baggage to garbage
Sensitive people care when the world doesn’t because we understand waiting to be rescued and no one shows up. We have rescued ourselves, so many times that we have become self-taught in the art of compassion for those forgotten
Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day
Everyone has the ability to increase resilience to stress. It requires hard work and dedication, but over time, you can equip yourself to handle whatever life throws your way without adverse effects on your health. Training your brain to manage stress won’t just affect the quality of your life, but perhaps even the length of it.
I really believe that all of us have a lot of darkness in our souls. Anger, rage, fear, sadness. I don’t think that’s only reserved for people who have horrible upbringings. I think it really exists and is part of the human condition. I think in the course of your life you figure out ways to deal with that
Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being
Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism
You have to remember that the hard days are what make you stronger. The bad days make you realize what a good day is. If you never had any bad days, you would never have that sense of accomplishment!
When we tackle obstacles, we find hidden reserves of courage and resilience we did not know we had. And it is only when we are faced with failure do we realize that these resources were always there within us. We only need to find them and move on with our lives
Participate joyfully in the sorrows of the world. We cannot cure the world of sorrows, but we can choose to live in joy
To recognize one’s own insanity is, of course, the arising of sanity, the beginning of healing and transcendence.”
You have to hurt in order to know. Fall in order to grow. Lose in order to gain. Because most of life’s lessons are learned through pain
Don’t waste yourself in rejection, nor bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good
Our frustration is greater when we have much and want more than when we have nothing and want some. We are less dissatisfied when we lack many things than when we seem to lack but one thing
Forget perfect on the first try. In the face of frustration, your best tool is a few deep breaths and remembering that you can do anything once you’ve practiced two hundred times. Seriously
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Success is not built on success. It’s built on failure. It’s built on frustration. Sometimes it’s built on catastrophe
Don’t cry when the sun is gone because the tears won’t let you see the stars
Sadness is a super important thing not to be ashamed about but to include in our lives. One of the bigger problems with sadness or depression is there’s so much shame around it. If you have it you’re a failure. You are felt as being very unattractive
Don’t worry if people think you’re crazy. You are crazy. You have that kind of intoxicating insanity that lets other people dream outside of the lines and become who they’re destined to be.
Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody
We all have those toxic people around us that make our lives miserable… The day we take them out from our lives, we will all become better people; including them
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too can become great
You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go
To heal is to touch with love that which we previously touched with fear.
The greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being.